Also :
Calm
Calm what? Am I not allowed to call out bad behaviour, or do you think I'm upset? I'm not sure what you mean.
That escalated quickly.
No, it didn't 'escalate' at all.
Do you also think his comment was a reasonable way to start a genuine conversation?
If you think confronting passive aggression with an honest rebuke is an 'escalation' then we're going to have to disagree. Prepare to see a lot of 'escalation'.
Because I call out bullshit when I see it.
Am I not allowed to call out bad behavior, or do you think I'm upset? I'm not sure what you mean.
The latter. It read like you yourself got triggered and were a hairsbreadth away from going FULL CAPS.
Do you also think his comment was a reasonable way to start a genuine conversation?
Yes.
If you think confronting passive aggression with an honest rebuke is an 'escalation' then we're going to have to disagree.
It doesn't come across as a mere 'rebuke'.
It's his passive aggressive way of making it a personal attack that I have an issue with.
In contrast, your response came across as a straight-up aggressive personal attack.
He's got a long history of it. He shows up to start fires, not have reasonable discussions. You probably should know that by now though.
I might just not read enough comments.
The latter. It read like you yourself got triggered and
I went back and had another look. I don't see it. I think you're confusing hostility and anger. They are not always linked.
It doesn't come across as a mere 'rebuke'.
Rebuke, verb: express sharp disapproval or criticism of (someone) because of their behavior or actions.
Seems pretty accurate to me.
In contrast, your response came across as a straight-up aggressive personal attack.
In contrast, I was honest about my purpose and intent. The aggression did not start with me. And I never attacked his person, I attacked his behaviour.
If you want an example of how to make it personal look at his comment. He mis-attributes the quote in an effort to attack the person instead of the point.
If your point is that I am being a hostile asshole toward Unruly. I plead guilty, and I'm not sorry.
If your point is that Unruly doesn't have malicious intent, or that you think he was being genuine, then you're wrong.
Compare my treatment of you, to him. You bring rational points and attempt discussion. You clearly don't agree with me, or see things in the same light, but you have stayed on point, not made it about feelings, not moved goals, tried to score points, etc.
So I do my best to return the same.
Unrulys intentions are malicious, so that is how I treat him. He uses passive aggressive jabs to disrupt attempts at real discussion. It's a symptom of the highlander politics that he subscribes to. Just because he is more subtle than others does not make him any better.
Note, I am not trying to justify, just explaining.
Calm. Asking for citations looks like an excellent way to start a rational discussion.
Meme, but one that purports to quote a real person. There is value in having properly attributed quotes. If it is real, we can all facepalm and hit the share button. If this is a witty rebuttal of a fake quote... well that is the very definition of a strawman. A quick search doesn't confirm the quote is genuine, so asking the OP for citations is the next best route.
I'm sure someone out there has said something like this-or equally stupid-so why not go get a picture of that guy instead?
That escalated quickly.