The latter. It read like you yourself got triggered and
I went back and had another look. I don't see it. I think you're confusing hostility and anger. They are not always linked.
It doesn't come across as a mere 'rebuke'.
Rebuke, verb: express sharp disapproval or criticism of (someone) because of their behavior or actions.
Seems pretty accurate to me.
In contrast, your response came across as a straight-up aggressive personal attack.
In contrast, I was honest about my purpose and intent. The aggression did not start with me. And I never attacked his person, I attacked his behaviour.
If you want an example of how to make it personal look at his comment. He mis-attributes the quote in an effort to attack the person instead of the point.
If your point is that I am being a hostile asshole toward Unruly. I plead guilty, and I'm not sorry.
If your point is that Unruly doesn't have malicious intent, or that you think he was being genuine, then you're wrong.
Compare my treatment of you, to him. You bring rational points and attempt discussion. You clearly don't agree with me, or see things in the same light, but you have stayed on point, not made it about feelings, not moved goals, tried to score points, etc.
So I do my best to return the same.
Unrulys intentions are malicious, so that is how I treat him. He uses passive aggressive jabs to disrupt attempts at real discussion. It's a symptom of the highlander politics that he subscribes to. Just because he is more subtle than others does not make him any better.
Note, I am not trying to justify, just explaining.
I think you're confusing hostility and anger. They are not always linked.
Granted they are not always linked, but by that metric his own comment can be taken as hostile without anger; yours seemed more angered.
Rebuke, verb: express sharp disapproval or...
Fair enough
He mis-attributes the quote in an effort to attack the person instead of the point.
I'm having a hard time understanding what you mean. Are you objecting that he puts responsibility for the quote/Hogg juxtaposition on Grumpy as opposed to the memist? Arguably, those that spread a false quote bear some of the responsibility. I mean, there are plenty of image macros that attribute Abraham Lincoln as saying "Don't believe everything you read on the Internet.", but spreading that as a true quote is mildly irresponsible.
but by that metric his own comment can be taken as hostile without anger
I can agree with that. It's his hostility that I object to. I attempt to make him angry, but I don't think it's very effective. However just existing as I do burns him a little, so I'll have to live with that.
yours seemed more angered.
I'm still not seeing the anger part, I don't see any expression of feelings.
I'm having a hard time understanding what you mean.
What I mean is that it was a deliberate attempt to frame the discussion. He first tried to put it in a binary us vs them context. He asks if op will show "us", not "me". He's not only declaring sides, but implying that he represents consensus.
He then specifically lays attribution on OP. Which makes OP either own the statement, and it's all personal and irrational from there, or OP denies it and is then discredited.
Without ever addressing the (poorly made) point. This is how discussions become polarized, and why it can be difficult for those of us that would rather understand than destroy.
Unruly practices what I call 'Highlander politics'. The belief that there can only be one correct idea, and all other must be attacked.
That comment was not made to understand, or enlighten. It was made to prevent an exchange of ideas. I will shit on him every time I see him do it.
He's got a long history of provocation, and no experience with rationale disagreement.
I may be jumping on him pretty quick here, but that is because I already know his motives, we've had this dance before.
The latter. It read like you yourself got triggered and were a hairsbreadth away from going FULL CAPS.
Yes.
It doesn't come across as a mere 'rebuke'.
In contrast, your response came across as a straight-up aggressive personal attack.
I might just not read enough comments.