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it’s hard having children with my character flaws… I’m afraid of getting close to people and I don’t really enjoy people outside the family that much anymore. I’ve just been fucked over too many times (stolen from, cheated on, you name it, it’s happened, I’m about 6k short from what I should have). Fortunately I picked a good girl and she gave me children but I’m still weary of even her lol. just a bit. I’ve got this deep distrust in people.

My older daughter (1.5 years old this month) and I have gotten super duper close… She had a fever last night and had to give her a bath at 2:30 am to cool her down. I’m torn and changing because it's responsibility and a relationship and though that's hard for me… I love it. It literally changes your character just loving someone so much.

I guess I’m feeling that a lot atm… I’m much less of a dick than normal and I’m just happy. Content even… it’s the weirdest feeling changing without forcing yourself. It’s just happening.

Being a dad kicks ass
it’s hard having children with my character flaws… I’m afraid of getting close to people and I don’t really enjoy people outside the family that much anymore. I’ve just been fucked over too many times (stolen from, cheated on, you name it, it’s happened, I’m about 6k short from what I should have). Fortunately I picked a good girl and she gave me children but I’m still weary of even her lol. just a bit. I’ve got this deep distrust in people. My older daughter (1.5 years old this month) and I have gotten super duper close… She had a fever last night and had to give her a bath at 2:30 am to cool her down. I’m torn and changing because it's responsibility and a relationship and though that's hard for me… I love it. It literally changes your character just loving someone so much. I guess I’m feeling that a lot atm… I’m much less of a dick than normal and I’m just happy. Content even… it’s the weirdest feeling changing without forcing yourself. It’s just happening. Being a dad kicks ass

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[–] Middle_Pillar 4 points (+4|-0)

Fellow dad here. It rocks! Only have one little one, he'll be 3 in a few months.

I honestly think a person isn't fully human until they've gone through parenthood. The subtle changes it causes completely morph who you are.

[–] [Deleted] 2 points (+2|-0)

yeah it's nuts! forget about what you thought was fun too... you find other things more interesting. It's starting to hit me a bit.
[–] Middle_Pillar 1 points (+1|-0)

I hear ya. I totally gave up on video games and television. Do still have some phone addiction though.

But yeah, you really change.

[–] [Deleted] 1 points (+1|-0)

work, cook, clean, and take everyone out most of my time... it's life it is
[–] sidewalker_Principle 3 points (+3|-0)

This makes me happy just reading it. I don't have kids, but I know I would love to have them at some point in life. I've heard a lot of older men describe to me what you are going through. I personally have not been through it, but I've come pretty damned close (I think) with some animals. I know the change you're talking about, and I congratulate you!

My dad specifically told me this change can really only come from having a daughter. Having a son is completely different, at least that is what he told me. I never really understood or liked how he spoke about this situation. I was jealous of an older sister, I guess.

Take care of your kids, man. It seems like you really enjoy it.
[–] [Deleted] 1 points (+1|-0)

Thanks for that and yeah I heard the same from men I worked with that were lifers... we'd go to the gym and they'd talk about life and I got it figured early on... love your kids they're your sole greatest accomplishment. Unless you invent time travel or instant teleportation... only parameters.

[–] InnocentBystander 3 points (+3|-0)

it’s the weirdest feeling changing without forcing yourself.

Change isn't hard. Deciding to change and committing to it are.
Having a little girl makes that easy.

[–] [Deleted] 4 points (+4|-0)

yeah try two... My world is a blur of tasks and interesting experiences.

[–] E-werd 2 points (+2|-0) Edited

Yeah, becoming a parent absolutely changes you. Anybody that says otherwise is a damn liar. I had a lot more passion to work on my career and stuff 5 years ago, now... ehh, I'm fine, this is good. What I've got is good enough and that's fine, I don't want to sacrifice my relationship with my family for a little more money.
[–] chmod 1 points (+1|-0)

I feel for you brother. Wait until they are 13. Then the real hell begins.
[–] [Deleted] 0 points (+0|-0)

ohhhh I know... it'll happen! We're planning to leaving to the North because schooling starts though so atleast it'll be small town drama
[–] ludwigbones 1 points (+1|-0)

Having kids is so fun! All my best friends had kids and now they're boring as hell and can never go out and do fun thing with me. They barely pay attention to me even when they come visit me because it's all about the kid. Oh joy, oh happiness!

Sorry, I just had to let that out. I re-read what i wrote and, though true, it seems so selfish. I am happy they are happy and am adjusting. Now I go out and have fun with myself.

I have a ton of nephews and nieces. Little girls are weird and hilarious. Bet your having loads of fun.
[–] Sarcastaway 1 points (+1|-0)

Depersonalization is a symptom of chronic sleep deprivation. Just sayin' ;)

In all seriousness, you sound like you're a good dad. Just keep them away from the internet for as long as possible lol
[–] [Deleted] 1 points (+1|-0)

lol I'll raise them to be good, as best I can... that's all I can do tbh
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