Mine: I don't have to, nor want to, put up with other people's shit. Your problems aren't mine. Your emergency is not even remotely my problem.
I am right or I am wrong. And so are you. Want to change my mind? Debate me and present evidence, not arguments.
What about abstract things and things were evidence cannot be reasonably provided for?
For example ironically this very topic might fall in this category and so how do you know that your assumptions about the motivations and intentions of other people are right?
>I am right or I am wrong. And so are you. Want to change my mind? Debate me and present evidence, not arguments.
What about abstract things and things were evidence cannot be reasonably provided for?
For example ironically this very topic might fall in this category and so how do you know that your assumptions about the motivations and intentions of other people are right?
If you're discussing, that's fine. If you're arguing about something abstract or subjective (as opposed to debating),, then you might have a bit of a personal problem, getting all heated over something which you cannot ask for permission to be right about.
As far as other people, I prefer not to make assumptions but if someone tells me something about what they're like or what they'll do, I'll take them at their word. If they say they'll do something less than reasonable, I will 100% take them at their word and treat them as someone untrustworthy. If they say they'll do something reasonable and they do not, then they are a liar and not worth of consideration in the future. I mean, it's not too difficult.
If you're discussing, that's fine. If you're arguing about something abstract or subjective (as opposed to debating),, then you might have a bit of a personal problem, getting all heated over something which you cannot ask for permission to be right about.
As far as other people, I prefer not to make assumptions but if someone tells me something about what they're like or what they'll do, I'll take them at their word. If they say they'll do something less than reasonable, I will 100% take them at their word and treat them as someone untrustworthy. If they say they'll do something reasonable and they do not, then they are a liar and not worth of consideration in the future. I mean, it's not too difficult.
For example, being punctual is a part of ethics but punctuality doesn't just mean arriving on time. It also means leaving on time. Leave work on time. Leave meetings on time. Leave home on time. As people learn this about you, they know you will be reliable on your time management (and will assume you manage your time well in other ways too).
An important part of those ethics and morals: There are only two motions: love and fear. Fear is really a request for love.
People online give me grief all the time when I step back from an argument. I don't do arguments. I'll do debate because debate is a way to learn or share. But an argument is nothing more than asking for permission to say that you are right (asking for love). I do not ask for permission to say that I am right. I am right or I am wrong. And so are you. Want to change my mind? Debate me and present evidence, not arguments.
People treat others the same way they treat themselves. Don't be angry, they're just continuing their conversation of self to others because they know no other way. So love yourself resolutely.
Sometimes life, even a loving or kind one, requires all the ugly things you don't associate with that in order to stop others from abusive behavior to yourself or others. To do otherwise is self abuse and not loving yourself.
Life, your life, is all about you. Of course it's selfish but you have to live with yourself at the end of the day.