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I'm at my grandfather's funeral today, and literally half the people there were wearing something I thought was completely inappropriate. One dude was wearing a fucking batman T-shirt and fucking jeans. My cousin was in a full blown cowboy get up complete with jeans, flannel, cowboy hat and boots with a giant ass belt buckle. Keep in mind this kid was born and raised in northern Michigan. He hasn't rode a horse a day in his life.

Now I'm not expecting everyone to show up in a suit and tie but to me, jeans are absolutely unacceptable funeral attire.

I'm at my grandfather's funeral today, and literally half the people there were wearing something I thought was completely inappropriate. One dude was wearing a fucking batman T-shirt and fucking jeans. My cousin was in a full blown cowboy get up complete with jeans, flannel, cowboy hat and boots with a giant ass belt buckle. Keep in mind this kid was born and raised in northern Michigan. He hasn't rode a horse a day in his life. Now I'm not expecting everyone to show up in a suit and tie but to me, jeans are absolutely unacceptable funeral attire.

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[–] Titus_of_Voat 7 points (+7|-0)

I wear a suit and tie, it should be business casual at the very least. Anything else is disrespectful imo.

I didn't wear a suit and tie, but but i did have my nicest church cloths on. Lol

[–] Titus_of_Voat 3 points (+3|-0)

I have some nice clothes that only see the light of day at weddings and funerals. I may as well use them.

I actually call my outfit "funeral and church clothes." Hahahaha

I rarely wear them, but I think its important to look good on certain occasions.

[–] PMYA 6 points (+6|-0) Edited

Kind of depends on whose funeral it is tbh. A friend of mine died a few years ago and we all just agreed to not do the whole suit and tie thing.

[–] Owlchemy 3 points (+3|-0)

I do agree if it's prearranged like that, that's a whole different ball game.

[–] COFfeebreak 5 points (+5|-0) Edited

Was the same at my granddaughters wedding. Sure, it was a smaller, southernish town but they're big enough to have a Wally world. I bet they sell sport jackets and ties at least. Even the grooms father didn't have a suit one, but I did and I was the bride's grandfather. Of course, after the reception dinner, the bridesmaids and groomsmen changed into jeans and a wedding-logo'd tee-shirt and I even took off my coat. They were kids and there was dancing so I can see that.

No one seems to think the couple will be looking at their wedding pictures for the rest of their lives. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned and it won't bother them, but I look at it as a matter of respect.

Condolences to you and yours. Try to focus on his life, not those people.

I suppose that I am old fashioned as well. It didn't offend me I just found it odd that people older then me, a 32 year old, didn't have that kind of respect for the situation.

Thank you, I'm not broken up about it. He was a good man, navy veteran, that lived a full life.

[–] ScorpioGlitch 4 points (+4|-0)

Because walmart. Not even kidding. E'rybody goes to walmart and no one cares how they look because it's the lowest common denominator.

But Wally world sells ties and button up shirts. I do agree that this is a decent explanation, but I still find it disrespectful.

[–] ScorpioGlitch 0 points (+0|-0)

All you need to know

Whether you find it disrespectful or not, expense and cost is a barrier to classes of people whereby you can expect as a general rule certain behaviors, attitudes, cultural norms. Now granted, I know a fair amount of people who'd think it was perfectly respectable to show up in every day clothes but that's because of the family culture, the type of person it'd be for, and so on. But the point is that people just don't any more.

If you think it's disrespectful to point out that income class is a separator between cultural norms, I can't help you. But all you ever need to do is drive through any neighborhood in each income bracket to see that it's true. Heck, you don't even have to do that. Just look at income maps and compare it to crime maps. There's a correlation for a reason.

[–] Owlchemy 3 points (+3|-0)

That does sound very disrespectful. As far as I know, it's still expected for folks to show up 'presentable' for such an occasion. Not necessarily a full blown suit or whatever ... but geez, at least a pair of decent pants and a sport jacket for a guy and something equally as appropriate for a woman.

BTW, sorry for your loss.

Thanks, he will be missed. But he lived a good life. Everyone has to go sometime.

I thought the Batman shirt and jeans was very disrespectful to the situation.

[–] shwanky 2 points (+2|-0)

In the South dressing up is still big/expected although some funerals especially really big ones during the week many aren't held up to a super exacting standard especially if the electrician or construction or whoever has to go right back to work. In those cases most bring a nice shirt to swap into but you may still catch some jeans and work boots.

[–] [Deleted] 2 points (+2|-0)

The culture is changing. Many businesses don't require employees to have a suit jacket or tie, so why would they? I was born on the west coast 60 years ago, and only church-related activities required dressing nice. Even that eased off. When I first moved to the east coast, suit and tie was normal every day attire. Now, not so much. I do agree for things like funerals there is a lower limit, and it sounds like a few people slid in under the line, but for a lot of people, as long as the jeans are clean, and the only tears were intentionally done, that's formal.

[–] Justintoxicated 2 points (+2|-0)

The goths just took funeral attire too far, now it's circling back.

I understand folks that are hard up for cash but at least wear a collared shirt, most guys have at least 1 collared shirt for job interviews/weddings/funerals.

[–] chmod 1 points (+1|-0)

My grandfather died at 100 last year. We had a couple of the younger great grandchildren show up casually. I took them all aside and told them how they were dishonoring their great-great.

Blank stares.

[–] Dudicles 1 points (+1|-0)

It's all part of the degeneration of culture, responsibility, and respect in our society. Remember, we're all individuals and we not only should but we need to do whatever it is we want at all times, regardless of how anyone else feels about it, because we're not tied down by tradition any more--we're progressive.

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