No context needed. Just the moral of the story.
In my case it is: No good deed goes unpunished
That's been a reoccurring theme in my time. A lesson that the universe insists that I learn.
But I'm a slow learner.
Mt first significant relationship was with a girl that was very chill. I didn't know what I had until the next one was an attention whore. I learned quick that there was no fixing that. Whatever they have or get, they will just find something new to be the center of attention.
Always avoided that type from then on. I've watched so many good people get sucked in by that behavior, and it confuses me. I think you're right that many men are draw to it by some naive belief that they can help.
Mt first significant relationship was with a girl that was very chill. I didn't know what I had until the next one was an attention whore. I learned quick that there was no fixing that. Whatever they have or get, they will just find something new to be the center of attention.
Always avoided that type from then on. I've watched so many good people get sucked in by that behavior, and it confuses me. I think you're right that many men are draw to it by some naive belief that they can help.
Watch out for careers. I'm too lazy to find sources, but women with a dancing career (balet, jazz, tap, erotic, etc) do have the biggest divorce rates, even when you exclude stripper
Edit: I married a balerina and dated a stripper and both were toxic in that same way
Watch out for careers. I'm too lazy to find sources, but women with a dancing career (balet, jazz, tap, erotic, etc) do have the biggest divorce rates, even when you exclude stripper
Edit: I married a balerina and dated a stripper and both were toxic in that same way
"Beware of attention-seeking behavior."
For some reason, I've been drawn in by that sort of personality by women I date and it took me a marriage and several failed relationships to narrow down on what I think is the toxic element. An example is "my minor inconvenience must be announced to the world in some way or another", which can be rather subtle in its emanations, or blindingly obvious. It is a common display from these types, and I feel that men are naturally drawn into that because of the primal "I think I can help!" mindset.
Avoid that personality type and try to look for it. Everyone has at least some degree of it, but there are many people out there that abuse it.