Have you ever had comforting dreams when you were depressed? One night i was at a very dark place in my head. I had no hope to hang on to and was very mentally disturbed. That night In a dream a beautiful lady all in white came to me and i felt a pure joy that I never had before. Another time I was deeply depressed and in a dream a cute little pudgy gnome woman with dancing eyes, black hair, and, (of course) a pointed red gnome hat ran up to me out of the darkness and gave me hug, which was what I really needed at the time; someone to show me they cared.
I hope to see the gnome again but I feel I've seen the white lady a few times since then.
That was your anima, your feminine inner personality, comforting you.