Modern society? Are you aware of what the ancients were up to? Greece, rome and Pompeii just to name a few. Not to mention that rape was just the norm for most cultures.
As far as the kink community. There's a lot of misconceptions. But consent is always the number one priority. If two people want to get tied up or whatever, who cares?
Now if they're doing some some Albert fish level shit, that's another story entirely.
Yea I don't get OPs rant. Sex is fun. Some people like to dress up in leather. Some people like vibrators and toys and handcuffs and whatever. Who cares. Let people have the sex they want, so long as everyone is over 18 and consenting.
You're right, prudes condemning what others do in their bedroom need to relax. However, we also should stop pretending that all choices are equally healthy/useful/valuable/etc. There seems to be the idea that if you don't praise whatever deviant thing a person is doing, you're intolerant.
"Kink community"
You mean sexual deviants? Yea, I hate how modernity pushes our lower selves to the front of existence.
Its now healthy to exercise perversion.
Women are empowered by behaving promiscuously.
Fucking degenerate shit, if you ask me.
EDIT: I didn't mean this to sound like I was attacking women. Not in the slightest. What I mean is that our "culture" now perpetuates sexual deviance as a norm. I don't agree with it. I simply mentioned women because they are the one's being targeted in this scheme. If you change the sexuality of women, you change the sexuality of men. Period.