recently had this shit happen. Cousin. Don't do it. don't tell them to join don't tell them who you are. I have it worse because I tied this name to that other site,,,, which wasn't that smart in retrospect. I'm fortunate because it's a family member. He didn't mean harm was just almost doxxing me on voat... just don't do it... don't ever give nothing out IRL to anyone other than spouses or bffs you have a ton of shit on lol.
Yeah there's maybe one or two friends I have who know my UN (very dear friends I have known for many years; I also doubt they know it off the top of their heads, they would probably have to think about it). One is a very successful streamer and so is aware of privacy concerns and the like, so he's smart enough to not blab, not to mention I'm probably the dullest person he knows, so I'm not likely to be mentioned in conversation anyway. :p The other, I promise, doesn't go to sites like this and gives 0 shits, so I'm also not worried.
My wife doesn't forum, so although she likely knows my UN, who's she really gonna tell it to?
EDIT: Besides which, she probably wouldn't go yelling it all about.
P.S. Sucks about your situation GS. Hope it's all OK.