in some places, it was a john wayne "toughen up" which is a bit different
Even in those cases, it wasn't about 'not feeling', it was about not allowing feelings to be in control. They also learned how to display and detect feelings in ways that are often misunderstood.
"You dirty cock-sucker" is oldschool-man speak for "I love you and greatly value our friendship".
"Get the fuck outa here!" = "Come in and feel welcome".
I guess I can see why there's confusion.
My father never once told me he loved me. But I never doubted it for a second, because he showed it. Every day.
'Men' learn that the most important things are said with actions, not words.
> in some places, it was a john wayne "toughen up" which is a bit different
Even in those cases, it wasn't about 'not feeling', it was about not allowing feelings to be in control. They also learned how to display and detect feelings in ways that are often misunderstood.
"You dirty cock-sucker" is oldschool-man speak for "I love you and greatly value our friendship".
"Get the fuck outa here!" = "Come in and feel welcome".
I guess I can see why there's confusion.
My father never once told me he loved me. But I never doubted it for a second, because he showed it. Every day.
'Men' learn that the most important things are said with actions, not words.
When I grew up, manning up didn't mean not to feel emotions . . .
It meant not to let your emotions stop you from doing something about it
of course, in some places, it was a john wayne "toughen up" which is a bit different
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/man_up