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This isn't a child or anything, they're a grown adult.

I know a person who really believes in a lot of supernatural bullshit, and refuses to get back to reality.

Some notable things they've done would include spending a few hundred dollars on special 'healing' rocks, blaming everyone's behavior (including their own) on astrology signs, and actually warning me, as though they were concerned for my safety, about not getting into occult things (I made a dumb joke about Satan worship) because of this story they've heard about a guy buying an ouija board and having to sell it on eBay because some spoopy shit was happening.

Whenever I tell them that science has produced no evidence of any of these things, or that the easiest explanation to all of those things would be fake stories, ancient superstition, and the placebo effect, they'll just respond with "Well just because nobody's proven it yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist".

Then I'll ask them if we should believe in unicorns or purple elephants or something stupid, and just assume they haven't been found yet. To which they'll respond with a smug "Maybe, who knows? Nobody can know everything for sure."

How do I convince them that they believe in a bunch of delusional crap? I'm really worried they might fall down the wrong rabbit hole one day and end up getting hurt.

This isn't a child or anything, they're a grown adult. I know a person who really believes in a lot of supernatural bullshit, and refuses to get back to reality. Some notable things they've done would include spending a few hundred dollars on special 'healing' rocks, blaming everyone's behavior (including their own) on astrology signs, and actually warning me, as though they were concerned for my safety, about not getting into occult things (I made a dumb joke about Satan worship) because of this story they've heard about a guy buying an ouija board and having to sell it on eBay because some spoopy shit was happening. Whenever I tell them that science has produced no evidence of any of these things, or that the easiest explanation to all of those things would be fake stories, ancient superstition, and the placebo effect, they'll just respond with "Well just because nobody's proven it yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist". Then I'll ask them if we should believe in unicorns or purple elephants or something stupid, and just assume they haven't been found yet. To which they'll respond with a smug "Maybe, who knows? Nobody can know *everything* for sure." How do I convince them that they believe in a bunch of delusional crap? I'm really worried they might fall down the wrong rabbit hole one day and end up getting hurt.

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[–] E-werd 5 points (+5|-0)

Whenever I tell them that science has produced no evidence of any of these things, ...

I have a big problem with this. People claim to like science, but almost nobody has any fucking clue about science, what it is, or how it's done. Science isn't being like, "I wonder what ammonia and bleach make when combined" then doing it in front of a camera--that sort of shit is just entertainment, stupidity. Science is boring as shit, all about long and drawn-out processes designed to be as thorough as possible.

I say that to say this: there was no evidence of anything until there was. What we know now isn't the extent to what can be known. Later discoveries will be made which will topple previously held beliefs. We may believe it as fact now that there is a female penis, but eventually science may determine that there is, in fact, no female penis at all and that it's just a man in drag; however, as of now, science has produced no evidence of any of these things.

Worry about yourself.

[–] PhunkyPlatypus 5 points (+5|-0)
[–] E-werd 1 points (+1|-0)

I've never seen this before, thanks!

[–] PhunkyPlatypus 1 points (+1|-0)

It immediately popped into my head while reading your comment. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

[–] Hitchens 3 points (+3|-0) Edited

Worry about yourself.

Best advice. Rarely do adults change their minds or beliefs. What purpose does trying to change the mind of these people? Nothing. His world will still spin even if his friend believes in the tooth fairy.

[–] PhunkyPlatypus 1 points (+1|-0)

Yeah.... But those people vote...

[–] Hitchens 2 points (+2|-0)

You’d be surprised at how few people vote.

But yes people who believe in the tooth fairy, Jesus and flat earthers all have the right to vote. There is no changing their beliefs with rational thought or reason, you’d be better served making sure those who agree with your political ideals have transportation to voting booths or sign up friends in your social circle to vote.

[–] Mattvision [OP] 0 points (+1|-1)

People claim to like science, but almost nobody has any fucking clue about science, what it is, or how it's done. Science isn't being like, "I wonder what ammonia and bleach make when combined" then doing it in front of a camera--that sort of shit is just entertainment, stupidity.

Never claimed to 'like science' in the way you're referring to. I just believe it's a better means of understanding the world than pure superstition. Guess that makes me insane.

I say that to say this: there was no evidence of anything until there was. What we know now isn't the extent to what can be known.

Right. But is it rational to believe in something before any reliable evidence for it has surfaced?

People have believed in all sorts of supernatural crap for thousands of years, and not once has anything more than anecdotes been produced. So is it more logical to assume we just haven't found any yet, or that some people will say things that aren't true because they're liars/insane/misinformed?

Worry about yourself.

This is a close family member I am talking about. If some new-age jackass is trying to take advantage of them, I would like to be able to talk them out of it. I guess that's wrong of me.

[–] E-werd 1 points (+1|-0)

So this was actually a serious post? I'm not sure I've actually seen you post seriously.

You're probably better off using the approach I usually have to use with my daughter, and in customer service. I can't just tell her no and expect a positive response. Find a way to say yes. Instead of, "don't do x!" ask "Do you want to do y? How about z?" You need to be persuasive, not corrective. Things like zodiac are clearly superstitious BS, kind of like how I won't watch an important hockey game if they scored goals without me watching but allow them when I do--hockey fans/players are a superstitious bunch, we know it's irrelevant but that's not important.

Not everything is so clear, maybe that magic rock emits a certain type of radiation that we haven't discovered yet--it doesn't hurt to believe, but it's certainly not worth investing your life savings. Hell, a lot of the time the placebo effect is actually effective--hypocondriacs can worry themselves into having legitimate conditions and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Pick your battles, figure out the important stuff. You won't do it overnight.