Whats something you've done/taught yourself that you're really proud of?

First you have to have a genuine desire to change. I already had that for various reasons. This is harder than it sounds.

Then you need to have some sort of belief that what you are going to use has chance to work.

I was given an example of a little trick some actors used to calm themselves. Little gestures you might see and think nothing of. The example I was given was someone touching their earlobe. Apparently they used this a a trigger to bring back memories of the character they we trying to portray. Whenever they felt in the groove they would touch their earlobe. So when they were on set and weren't feeling in character they would touch their earlobe and the feelings of nailing the character would flood back prompted by that trigger.

In that way I was introduced to the concept that your feelings dictate behavior but that also your behavior can dictate your feelings. I the made my own trigger which I use to this day. I touch my thumb and index finger together when I'm feeling out of my depth and lacking in confidence. Because I taught myself to do this at times when I was actually feeling confident the feelings came flooding back. My back straightened, my eyes made contact with theirs. People started noticing that I was more confident and said so. The finger thing is now a habit of mine and self-serving/reinforcing.

So I started studying CBT in depth. I tried to avoid the obvious cash in self-help books and went for full on academic studies on it. You can train your mind but you have to believe your mind is your tool and not the totality of your existence. I also believe CBT can be a trap if you let it dictate to much of how you live as well. If your dog(your mind) is being a good boy you can just let him be most times. Tell him he's doing well and get on with the here and now.

It was hard work though sticking to the plan.

SAT or ACT? Only good for college. My ACT score was 32 (which is above 1400 SAT new, 2000-2100 SAT old) and it only helped me in college. After that, no one cared.

Actually no idea which shirt it was tbh, but my wife has the handbag and all of her friends gave me a lot of kudos for it.

How has it worked in your life?

Mainly it made getting a formal education really easy. During college I ended up using my professors as people I could contact with questions, rather than relying on them for their lectures. I'd just read ahead and figure out how to do the homework, then use the time in class to actually do the homework and ask any questions I had.

On the other hand, I've never had much difficulty learning things I find interesting. I think most people are like that. Learning to work on cars was pretty easy because I like cars.

The trick to leaning things you like is just trial and error. Learning things you don't like is the same, but you've got to incentivize yourself or else you burn out.

Sure.

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Knots are interesting but if you don't keep at them you lose the technique pretty quick. Most of the knots I used were for hoisting, loading, and tying things down. A few I learned when I started sailing.

Give it a shot.

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Fucking spellchecker! Es tut mir leid.

Yeah, not really my thing though. All those tiny rivets drive me insane. If I need maille I almost always buy it from someone who specializes in it.