Long story short (and leaving out a LOT of details): (now) ex-girlfriend became abusive, threatened to leave because she wasn't happy about something. I'm a firm believer that allowing someone to act a certain way teaches them to treat you that way so I said "If you leave, don't come back."
She did not like that. She had a few choice words and I kept my mouth completely shut (silence is power) and then left her to her packing by staying in a completely different floor of the house.
A few hours later, she was drunk as a skunk and came trying to beat down the door to the room (I had locked the door, suspecting nonsense was coming). She demanded I help her pack because she was "leaving tonight."
Okay, fair enough. Gets her out of my life even quicker and she hadn't done anything really except rip a necklace off me, slap me, and scream at and insult me. I'm all kinds of good with her leaving immediately. She refuses to walk in front of me (I found immediately suspicious but she hadn't done anything yet) and we go to the garage to get some boxes whereupon she blocks the door (and garage door switches) and charges and attacks me a total of 5 times, knocking one of my contact lenses out in the process (making me effectively half blind so I could not clearly make out her hands, etc) and each time I attempt to disengage and say "Stop right now." There was damage to my ego car in the process. I also sustained several injuries which were documented by police.
Not once did I swear, insult, or strike.
Finally cornered and trapped with nowhere to go, I took a defensive "draw" stance. She charged again and I drew. She saw me draw and mocked me, asking me twice if I was going to shoot her. I told her "I don't want to but I will."
Something switched in her and she turned tail, screeching that I pulled a gun on her and she was calling the police.
I beat her to the call, stood outside with her having locked me out of my house. I was fine with that, stay away from me.
Long story short, we didn't press charges but she tried to change her mind when I had police escort her out (they wouldn't let her because pressing charges is not meant to be revenge).
Of course her story didn't match mine (police told me as much). She tried to claim I was drunk. They tested us both. I blew a double zero and she... did not. She was so drunk that they wouldn't let her talk to the magistrate that night.
I firmly believe that she had intended to try to either kill me or beat me to force me into physical defense to frame me as abusive to the police. She didn't count on me carrying (I do carry in home from time to time both to keep myself armed "just because" and keep myself used to carrying) and everything fell to pieces for her plans. And given that I could not see her clearly, the "stand your ground" and "castle doctrine" laws fell into full effect (my uncorrected vision is that bad).
The police asked if I had intended to scare her with the gun. "No. Yes. Well, no. I would prefer the other person to see the gun and run but I was ready to use it." That same police officer told me to change my locks immediately. I did and I'm having a security system installed as well.
Had another police officer I had friended earlier stop by just to check on me. She... has had run-ins with the police before (DUI, assault, etc etc). She never did like that I had police officer friends. And the story of what she did has spread far and wide (not by my actions) and there are people essentially begging me for her address. I have not and will not give it out. I prefer for her to pretend I do not exist.
So the lesson here: carry. Always carry. Defend your gun rights.
Edit: I did not press charges because with where she is in her life, it would completely and utterly destroy her life and the life of her son. That's not very fair as long as she leaves me alone. I still have two years where I can and also have a restraining order placed and both of those would destroy her entire future. I'm not out for revenge, I just want her to leave me alone.
Edit edit: Police loved my gun, my house, a few other things on the property and we spent more than a few minutes talking about such things. I have a conceal carry permit and from what I understand, the sheriff having had to have run a background check on you makes the police a little more favorable to you because they know you stay out of trouble. Also, the first person to get through to the police on a domestic violence call gets believed more.
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