Do you hold grudges?

I can hold a grudge longer than anyone else on the planet. I finally figured out how to choose not to so I don't anymore. I just move on. No point in letting someone live in my head rent-free.

Externally? No, I don't. I let things slide and move on, I'm really bad at confrontation anyway.

Internally? I don't forget. I don't typically use that to make decisions unless it's a matter of safety, but it's always in the back of my mind.

I don't believe in grudges. Never held any of them, but had an ex that made a habit out of it. Only in her case she always did something about her grudges. In a way, I admired that in her because I was hopelessly non-confrontational by comparison. Something bothered her and she acted to change things albeit with a time delay and a toxic period of growing the negativity. But that kind of conflict causing behavior is just war by another name. I truly believe women are more prone to warfare. If a man has any courage and foresight he will resolve an incident that would lead to a grudge in the present. I think grudges are like a pressure bomb. Building and escalating past the point of failure. Ensuring an upward spiral of destructive acts between each party more severe than the last. Plenty of time to plan in between. Noble conflict resolution is immediate and does not plan to persist or grow.

I kind of have to or I leave myself open to that asshole again.

I used to when I was younger. It takes too much (mental and emotional) energy to hold grudges so I just sort of stopped along the way.

I try hard not to but sometimes I still do. My dad showed me the best way to handle it after his best friend got my dad forced out at the company they were working at. To this day whenever my dad sees his ex-best friend at an event, he goes out of his way to treat him like an old friend he never sees. Apparently it makes the guy extremely uncomfortable when my dad does that and the guy looks for the quickest way out of the situation. I've tried to emulate that whenever I've been wronged but many times I can't bring myself to be over the top nice.